Wednesday, May 05, 2010

It matters to this one

The air of gloominess around Kiara is obvious and I have to ask her what is wrong. At first she says "Nothing." Then "I don't want to talk about it." I persist and finally get, "I don't really want to talk about it in front of everyone."

So I find an opportunity to take her aside.

"So what's wrong?" I ask.

"I just can't really explain it. . . " she says with her head down and with exaggerated hand motions. "I don't know the right words to explain it."

"Try to," I encourage.

She responds by shrugging - not sure what to say.

"When did you start feeling sad? Was it before dinner? Was it after?"

"Well. . . I guess it was at the birthday party."

A few hours earlier I had picked her up from a birthday party at the park. She had hoped into the van, handed me some candy from her goodie bag and excitedly told me all about the party. At the time everything had seemed fine.

"What happened at the party?" I ask.

Again a pause.

"Something that some of the people were doing."

She obviously wasn't going to come right out and tell me - so I continue to question:
"Were some of the kids being rude to you?"

"No."

"Were they excluding you?"

"No."

"Well what was it?"

"I don't know exactly who was doing it but it was parents too. . . but I just don't know who was and who wasn't doing it."

"Kiara, I don't care right now who was or wasn't doing it, I just need to know what they were doing. Was it something bad?"

And then, finally she comes out with it:

"It's just that there were so many people there littering and it just makes me so sad because they don't care about our environment and they would just leave their garbage on the ground even though there were two trash cans there. It makes me so sad because I just want our world to be beautiful but it doesn't matter because even if I want that, there are so many people who still litter and pollute."

I have to hide my smile. I compose myself and offer some sympathy and words of encouragement. I tell her that changing the world is a big thing and we all have to do our part and we can't let those who don't share our same vision discourage us.

"I know but it's like when we did that beach cleanup. We cleaned up all that trash and now it is back again. People just aren't reducing, re-using and recycling," her disappointment is spilling out of her along with genuine sniffles and tears.

I tell her the story of the young boy throwing beached starfish back into the ocean and his response to the man who was challenging his actions as fruitless. . . "It matters to this one". She listens to the story. She loves stories.

"You know Kiara - you have a real talent with writing. Maybe one day you'll write a book that will encourage people to care more about the environment."

She considers this for a moment. "Yeah. . . maybe."

* * * * * * *

Here is the beginning of that story written the following day. It is called "The Lost City":

Once upon a time there was this very famous city. It was so beautiful. There was no pollution and it was perfect. But then one day something happened, it disappeared. And everybody polluted and all the animals and trees got sick. It was horrible. I try to stop it but it was no use. Stealing happened. . . Fighting. . . I clearly do not want polluting.


2 comments:

Jen I said...

Oh wow, that is so cute. I can tell they must really beat that into kids these days at school. I really am a big recycler, but I was babysitting someone's kids one day and everything was crazy and I gave them plastic cups to drink out of and then when I tried to throw them away, one kid said, "Shouldn't you recycle that?!?" And I said, "Yep, but I just made a big trip down to the recycling bin and I'm not going again for a while." Try to throw it out again. "But couldn't you use it for something else." Stress levels rising, six kids in my house yelling and I'm trying to clean up. "Yeah, but sorry I don't have anything to use it for right now." Try again to dispose of it. "BUT COULDN'T YOU AT LEAST WASH IT AND USE IT AGAIN!?!?!!!!!" Needless to say, I have one extra used plastic cup back in my cupboard.

I love that starfish story by the way - that was some good parenting. It was the perfect answer to her problem.

R,J,J,G,N Fin said...

Kiara - you rock! Way to go! Earth lovers unite!